A father’s guide to a faith-filled family


TRJ – Fathers Guide is comprised of 13 standalone chapters, all include a study guide and take away. The chapters are short, powerful, and easy to understand. They are intended to be used as tools handed on as strong conversation starters. This website and the Facebook page have been created to support the readers that do not have the opportunity of sharing in a men’s group. Both containing 13 forums, one for each chapter meant to encourage group discussion on the platform of their choosing. Twitter and Instagram accounts are also in place, used for connecting the intentional reader to the content to strengthen the composure needed in his spiritual life to continually chip away, in humility, at the sin and vice that presents itself daily in his physical life. This book has a targeted audience of 18 to 25, but the wisdom that the older reader freely shares will be the key to it’s success. Before we can lead, we must first follow… I hope that this blessing will build up not only men, but the communities around them, and the faith-filled families within them. Enjoy the read!

How to use This Website

The author, Ray Haywood, had a vision: to provide the next generation with the tools he’s learned on his journey and a platform for Men of all ages to share their knowledge.  We are all here to guide one another and share our experiences to become the best men and fathers we can be through intentionally building up our Faith community.

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Learn the fundamental tools, which when compiled will paint a clearer picture of a father’s place within a faith-filled family.

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If you know of other men who could benefit from what is taught and discussed here, please share this site.  We welcome all who are open to learn and discuss their journey.


In-depth Interviews

Listen to Ray discuss the intent behind writing TRJ Father’s Guide and learn how the book can help young men and old navigate through the bigger questions and issues they face.


About the Artwork

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Strong communities are led by intentional men!

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“This book has been a true blessing.  Coming from a home with an absent father, I thought I had to figure it out all on my own.  With these tools, I have confidence to be the father that I never had.”

Brett Lee

“Every young man needs to read this book.  There are so few good role-models out there these days.  It’s like we’ve forgotten how to be good men.  I look forward to discussing what I’ve learned so far and grow with my peers in this faith-filled community.”

Marcus Gonzales

“Ray breaks everything down into simple concepts that I found easy for me to interalize and implement into my life.  Thank you! Let’s lift each other up!”

Brian Redding

Chapter Summaries and Discussions

Chapter 1: The Masculine Journey

To understand our roles as husbands and fathers, we must first understand what it truly means to be a man. God’s vision for a man’s place in the family is not reflected clearly in the eyes of a young man at this moment in time. Society’s questioning of gender,...

Chapter 2: Our Thoughts Are Not Our Own

Society has conditioned us to look down on people who hold deeply spiritual beliefs as weak or irrational. This notion is built on the argument that if so many religions exist in the world, then how can any one of them be true? Society holds up as the “true...

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