Epilogue, All of the tools gathered together.

Whether biological or spiritual in nature, there is no better achievement in life than to be a successful father. There is no better reward in life than to see your faith-filled family living a peaceful life, nourished by God’s grace. But the masculine journey can be difficult. The world is scheming constantly to separate fathers from the one true God and Loving Father, and to fracture the foundation of faith that leads men and their families to true happiness.

Tools for the journey are many – and the most important tool in a father’s tool chest is his heart. When a father’s heart embraces God, the tool chest grows and overflows through grace, offering virtues that extend into and enliven the hearts of the family that the father is accountable to God for leading. Much wisdom is gained by the intentional father who has composed himself through humility and selflessness and who has used his trials and failures as opportunities to grow. This wisdom instills within him a moral compass that guides all his decision-making and begins to work unconsciously within the hearts of the family he is nurturing. As he lovingly answers his calls to action, and as his character is rooted consistently in fair and honorable decision-making, he begins to change the world around him. His efforts to hand on the faith-filled gifts of the New Covenant and the sacraments have now formed his family’s foundation of faith, which will cascade into the generations to come.

As fathers, we must understand and accept that every decision and position we take, through our words and actions, affects our families. If we become complacent to what society dictates as acceptable, then we separate our families from our foundation of faith. If we fail to challenge the false truths that are perceived as reality for those living in and of this world, and we fail to protect our families from the many worldly causes that try to capture their hearts, then they will lose their way as they face the world on their own.

Humility and composure are our go-to tools that must be sharpened constantly within our daily lives to reflect and instill virtue within the families we are nurturing. By taking our God-given place within our families, we become the loving authority that our families count on and turn to for direction. This contradicts what is accepted in society today, where the father figure is devalued and diminished. By always putting our families first and by our selfless actions, we can pull our families above this worldly view, and we can rest in the truth seen through God’s grace as we love our families as Christ loves the Church. I challenge all fathers who have grown families to share their tools of experience and wisdom gained through trials and failures with young fathers so that they can understand the value of our foundation of faith, and how it cascades throughout life, and how true peace of heart and mind in this world comes only through the intentional application of these competencies and faith-filled gifts within the families they are nurturing.

A prayer to strengthen my family’s faith is what guided me through this written journey. At first, my prayer stopped at that, my family. A moment of grace, however, revealed to me that God’s intent within my prayer was to reach into and strengthen His entire faith-filled family. I felt an undeniable call to action to reach into the hearts of fathers building a foundation of faith within the families they are nurturing. I hope that the life lessons and competencies shared within this book will lead other fathers to a clearer understanding of their rightful place within their families and at the table of God.

Epilogue, All of the tools gathered together.

by Breadbox Media